The Case of the Ex
Okay so as I explained earlier, I am with this new boyfriend. The only thing that gets to be a real pain in the $@%! is that his ex-wife is a complete thorn in my side. Here's the 411 on that. Sean, was married to this woman for over 10 years and with her a total of 15 years. To make a long story short this woman left him for another man. Mind you they have a beautiful little girl who I absolutely adore. Anwyway, his now ex worked for a child welfare program down here in Florida while this whole thing was going on and she completely manipulate the system to get what she wanted. Since she deals with child welfare she went extenuating circumstances to make Sean out to be this terrible person and in the process has taken his daughter (who he took care of everyday after work) away from him. She not only did that but put a restraining order on him claiming that he is predjudice and violent and may harm himself or others. That ramification caused him to lose his guns (including paintball) and he missed out on hunting season. So I know many of you men out there can uderstand how devastating that is.
Let me tell you that he is non of those things. He is the calm one in our relationship and keeps me grounded. I have more a temper than he does and as far as the prejudice thing is concerned, well I'm not white. I am Guyanese and Indian, so obviously he's not prejudice...DUH!!! Well, after it was all said and done and she got her money and the kid, she decides to tell Sean that she did what she had too to keep her job and that she was protecting herself (she is the perfect example why women can get a bad rap). My point is this woman is a complete well, you know. It's been about two years since their separation and one year since their divorce. After her life has proven to be unstable she attempted to get Sean back. However, thank God that Sean is a smart person and realized that he was never happy with her and that he dealt with her because they were married and they had their daughter. So he has decided to tell her to take a hike and stay with me. Yeah for me!!! :)
Now what bothers me is that she has manipulated the system to get what she wanted out of the divorce. Her child is nothing more than a paycheck. I was looking at some older pictures of their daughter prior to the separation. The little girl was well maintained and well groomed. Since she has been in her mother's custody she has gone down hill in her appearance and her attention span has gone to nothing, don't get me started on other issues. She is starving for attention when she comes to our home and it breaks my heart that my boyfriend feels that he is fighting a battle he has no chance in because of the position she holds within the community. Not mention this woman is incharge of deciding the welfare of other children but she doesn't even pay attention to her own. I know from a very reliable source that she drinks her nights away with her live in boyfriend (which by the way is BF #2 in the short time they've been separated and divorce) Oh and did I mention her first which was who she left Sean for was her boss!!! Yes, her freakin boss, talk about trash!
Anyway, I just trying to figure out a way for him to get more time with his daughter. They have shared responsibility with primary residency at the mothers (so she gets the support). We live in the same town as his ex-wife as a matter of fact Sean has the same house with his daughters room neatly intact. Which also means that this was the house the daugther was registered in when she started school. However, the court still feels that it is not in the best interest for her to spend equal time with her father. I know what you are thinking and no there is no restraining order. She dropped it the day of their divorce so she could take care of money arrangements. I can go on and on but I'm sure you get the gist. Whatcha think?
posted by: Angie (reply)
post date: 05.07.08 (12:50 pm)
I think she screwed herself and their daughter. I have been divorced with children and would never dream of starting any drama. There is enough of that for the children involved with any divorce.That poor little girl. The reason she seems to have gone down hill is because mom doesn't want to admit that she cant handle it. I believe in open custody, give it time she will give in or really mess up.She doesnt seem to really like raising a kid but does it out of spite. KARMA baby!!!!!
posted by: PooPotPie (reply)
post date: 05.07.08 (5:37 pm)
Reply to: Angie
Yeah, you are right, thanks for the support.
posted by: PooPotPie (reply)
post date: 05.08.08 (5:59 pm)
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Yeah, it's not about her daughter's well being it's about getting that check every month.
posted by: Jason (reply)
post date: 05.11.08 (2:29 pm)
As a Sociology major I came to see why I despise so much in Social Work. These two fields are separate. Sociology is a scientific study of how and why people interact the way that they do. Social Work is simply a field that is bent on forcing their psychological, hegemonic ideas upon the population (usually that of the lower classes and disenfranchised in some way.) It is used by the powers that be to keep society in check. You won't see them going to wealthy households too often. Usually it is the home of a minority or the poverty stricken that are continually harassed by the likes of social workers.
Granted, there are social workers out there who run counter to those mentioned. They tend to work in agencies like the VA and are devoted to seriously helping people cope with serious issues in their lives. However, those in child welfare tend to be of the former sort. I realize that this is a huge stereotype on my part, but I see this too often.
The personality type of such social workers fits right in with the description that you have of Sean's ex. The manipulative, power hungry, and secretly insecure work in these areas because they are able to take control of someone else's life because they can't handle their own.